There is a virus that is dangerous to all of us. It does not know the time of the season , gives no respect to social class or your position in life. The virus is blame. Once you blame someone for an outcome you did not like (even if they did what you say they did) you allow yourself to become infected with an extremely powerful and quick spreading germ that knows no end. In other words you become a victim.
Why is avoiding blaming so important? It is important because people who constantly blame secretly feel controlled by others, see themselves as powerless and feel out of control in their own
lives. All of their time and energy is focused on what was done to them and not how to get out of the situation and possible learn from it. Beware the blamer because they carry a virus that is highly contagious and it does not take long before you too have become infected and focused on the problem and not the solution.
lives. All of their time and energy is focused on what was done to them and not how to get out of the situation and possible learn from it. Beware the blamer because they carry a virus that is highly contagious and it does not take long before you too have become infected and focused on the problem and not the solution.
The cure for the blamer virus is believing that you are responsible for your life, that it will not always be perfect but you can take actions that result in positive changes. We can read books, check out things like this blog, or align ourselves with positive people that can show you the right direction. But, we have to accept that if we are looking for others to fix the situation it is just not going to happen.
The way of success is k
nowing that change for the better has to come from inside your own head. Successful people are internally focused. They have forced their focus on to exactly what they want. They have committed themselves to learning more and better ways of getting what they want despite the things that have happened to them.
nowing that change for the better has to come from inside your own head. Successful people are internally focused. They have forced their focus on to exactly what they want. They have committed themselves to learning more and better ways of getting what they want despite the things that have happened to them.
So fight the blame virus. Begin, even on a small scale, to take control. Allow yourself to see that you may not be a rocket scientist but have a brain that is capable of making good, strong and right decisions. You made it here didn’t you? Realize that you are in control of your life and that decisions flow from you, not to you!
So true…. what's that saying " point the finger, it points back at you"…..
people need to start being accountable for their actions, then things will turn around for them…its hard for some but once one has done it then it becomes easier.
Good point Chrissy,
but it is more about FOCUS rather than responsibility. Where we focus actually develops pathways in our brains neural network that create habits that can work FOR us rather than operating from feelings of guilt over taking responsibility. That is a catch phrase that people use but is like asking someone to teach something they do not know. Asking someone to take action and then learn from it is a lot more positive.
Wow, Cherrie. Once again, a very good lesson. I am happy to report that the past couple of weeks I have been avoiding the blame virus. And one thing I have noticed, when I avoid the blame virus, my own immune system is stronger, and I have been healthier.
Go figure. It – and we – are all connected.
Thanks for CoActive Dreams and the Gallery!
Your photography is beautiful!
Yes Terre,
You have discovered the secret! And, I have to admit I am so glad you decided to take that journey of discovery. Like I said, it is not always perfect but we are all works in progress…
I love this! There are too many occasions where blaming other people for your faults lead to disaster. At the end of the day, the worst part about blaming others is that it is really just an excuse. My old teacher use to say that winners don't make excuses for why they win. In other words, if you find yourself using blaming others as an excuse, its a sign that you lost something.
Wonderful read on the virus of blame and I totally agree although I may be a little out there. My creative side of my brain rules most of my life which helps me with the difficult parts of life, blame being one of the great Energy Vampires of all time. I enjoyed this information and hope you will continue for I see it as a great help to many who stop by, Thank you and stop by and check out my photo art, anyone can see if they can use some of it.
Emme,
Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the encouragement. I do this for a living so the hope is that people will be mindful of how they contribute to the structure of their lives.
Bela JACA!